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The tomb's not empty yet
Today would have been his 64th birthday. He was impossibly hard to shop for—like so many men are—so I probably wouldn't have gotten him...
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The treasure of poverty
For a while there, I only owned one piece of furniture. It's that chair pictured above. The bean bag chair was borrowed. (Does a bean bag...
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The heart of a mother
I never expected it would be so hard to find black flats. They're either too tight or too wide. They dig into my ankle or slip off when I...
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Six months gone
When I was little, living a blissful childhood in a shoebox of a house with no TV and a big backyard, my grandfather sent a camcorder...
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Let Him enter
First, I cried. Then, I think I threw myself a pity party or two as I am wont to do, prayed my new favorite How could you? prayer to my...
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Hair apparent
It's all St. Clare's fault, really. You see, I used to have long hair. Long, thick, wavy hair. I'd pull it into a ponytail when I was...
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Cancel all pity parties
How does God get your attention? Fr. James asked in his homily. Well, there are all sorts of ways I could answer that question. But...
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The inefficiency of intimacy
Every weekday morning, it's the same. I wait for the last click of the church doors when the sacristan leaves, and I settle into my...
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On being the one who can't repay
I recently spent two weeks in Philadelphia. Two long, full, glorious weeks. I stayed in three different homes and reunited with dozens of...
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Out of the shadows
When I was 25, I got my ears pierced and started eating meat for the first time in my life. (It was the height of my rebellion.) And I...